Grieving & Bereavement Support:
Grieving Experience — What You May Expect
Although everyone’s grieving
process is different, there are basic emotions that most people
experience. The first emotion, shock, usually accompanies the news of a
death. An individual may go numb or be unable to comprehend what is
happening. A person in shock may practice everyday tasks but is unable to
feel anything. Denial typically follows shock. Even though a person knows
their loved one is gone, they may not be able to accept the truth.
Some Physical Symptoms You May Feel
Ways to Cope with Grief
Have a Funeral, Visitation or Memorial. Each of
these services bring family and friends together and help the grieving
form a support network. Most guests want to help the grieving in any way
they can. They may offer to help with any difficulties you are
experiencing, or they may offer their companionship.
Trying To Help one Through Grief
Finding the right words, fear of
saying the wrong ones, and perhaps a lack of direct understanding leave
many people uncomfortable reaching out to a grieving friend. Often, we
feel responsible for alleviating or creating additional pain for our
friends in mourning. In doing so, we fail to realize the loss of a loved
one cannot be enhanced or relieved by words.
How to Help During the Early Stages
Listen. Take time to sit
down with a grieving friend and ask about their deceased loved one. They
will be more than willing to share their favorite memories. You should
also be content with silence. Sometimes the grieving find it too
difficult to talk but find comfort in having a friend close by.
How to Help During the Late Stages
Involve A Grieving Person.
Invite your friend to social occasions so they have the opportunity to
meet new friends and get their mind off their loss. Plan new activities
together so both of you have something to look forward to.
While grieving is a necessary and
healthy process, individuals can go to extremes. If a grieving person
demonstrates any of these signs, they may need professional help.
Communities, religious centers, funeral homes and healthcare
organizations have grief counseling programs or support groups.
Your Grieving Experience — Where You Can Find HelpSelective Books and Audio Visual Support
We have over 250 books, booklets, brochures, video, and audio tapes, for and about helping people on their journey through grief. All material within our library has been carefully reviewed and selected. In addition, we provide local consulting services to clergy, hospital, hospice and schools to assist, develop and help manage a support group for the bereaved. We have many topics available.
Our library is available free to the community. You may call the Fenner Funeral Home at (315) 866-4590 Monday - Friday 8:00a.m. - 6:00p.m. or E-Mail us. Books may be borrowed for 30 days. Video tapes borrowed for 5 days. Advance requests are welcomed for any material. Call or write for catalogs detailing specific material
Fenner Funeral Home Inc., Widowed Persons Service of the Mohawk Valley, The First United Methodist Church of Herkimer Little Falls, Prospect Street, Herkimer and The Church of Christ Uniting, Church Street, Richfield Springs will host four-week bereavement workshops.
Sessions held at First United Methodist Church, 127 N. Prospect St, Herkimer, (across from the post office) start on Monday evening, September through May from 7:00 – 8:30p.m. The church is handicap assessable and parking is available at the rear of the building.
Sessions held at the Church of Christ Uniting, Church Street (NY Hwy 167), Richfield Springs, starting Tuesday evening from September through May, from 6:30 until 8:00 p.m.
Each program is free and open to the community for those who have experienced a death and are grieving the loss of a loved one.
Pre-registration is advisable. For more information please contact Pam Hess at 866-4590 or the Herkimer church office 866-1349, or the Richfield Springs Church office at 858-1553.
Monthly Informal Bereavement Meetings are held at the First United Methodist Church, 127 N. Prospect St, Herkimer every second Monday from 7:00 until 8:30 p.m. September through June.
Monthly Informal Bereavement Meetings are also held at the Church of Christ Uniting every second Tuesday from 6:30 until 8:00 p.m.